How to set boundaries!?

I COULD, I SHOULD, I WILL!

It all begins with a need. Often that need is made aware through crisis. Whether it is dealing with an unruly boss, unforgiving spouse, or even persistent in-laws or parents, we all need to set boundaries. Boundaries are like rules to a game. Without rules any sport or game is chaotic. Not all boundaries are good but should always be an evolving practice that provides expectations in relationships.

The process of setting boundaries could look like this. First identify the need. This need could be a basic human need or to be protected or to feel safe. But identifying the need is important to being the first step.

STEP ONE: I COULD (thought)

Dream of the possibilities or scenarios that YOU COULD potential see happening. This can be outside the box. You can dream BIG but it is important to take small steps towards this desired outcome.

STEP TWO: I SHOULD (emotion)

Narrow down what YOU SHOULD do. This should be achievable and something you know is right even though it may be difficult. Perhaps, invite another person to help you discern if it seems reasonable and not threatening to yourself or others.

STPE THREE: I WILL (will/behaviour)

This step requires more than your mind and emotion. It requires you to WILL it into action. Choosing to act on a boundary is the hardest step for most people. There often is great fear and defeat mentality as it seems too difficult and easier to coast. Have someone close to you be your cheerleader (not enabler) as you journey to put boundaries in place for yourself in order that your relationships thrive.

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